Tribe.net. Local Connections $item.owner.firstName http://clubrisque.tribe.net/thread/c9cf8d14-7002-4b9b-bc11-9c05487eb280#7f4e4c39-78e2-4d9c-abf2-6e10f43a07f1 2007-09-12T02:54:57Z 2007-09-12T02:54:57Z

New member so a late response: I have always had a desire to be topped by a woman who has her toys and knows what to do with them. I have never had a desire to be topped by a male. There is something terribly erotic about it....finding the partner is the rub.

$item.owner.firstName 2007-09-12T02:54:57Z kelly http://clubrisque.tribe.net/thread/c9cf8d14-7002-4b9b-bc11-9c05487eb280#3ad6941d-0f18-4d7c-abfd-877c22c128e5 2006-09-30T01:04:42Z 2006-09-30T01:04:42Z

this tribe is still alive? It's not that tough to Top or bottom if the person you are playing with gets pleasure from what you are doing. i am, as many here know, the bottom in the relationship i am currently in. i greatly enjoy any opportunity to Top in order to provide the sensations that someone may enjoy or even be curious about experiencing (you don't have to be drunk to give it a shot!) In no way do i consider myself a switch. To me that's more along the lines of someone who needs to be Dominant and submissive--depending on how they are feeling at the time. i don't relate being Dom or sub to the same thing as being a Top or bottom. All these labels! For me, Topping someone is a service that i can provide (not the kind of service you pay for, either, i'm talking about serving someone as a submissive/slave). i have noticed on a yahoo group that i'm on where the topic of switch came up that "switching" is more common in communities that are small. Not enough good Tops to go around!

kelly 2006-09-30T01:04:42Z Rhett http://clubrisque.tribe.net/thread/c9cf8d14-7002-4b9b-bc11-9c05487eb280#7ace18f6-800d-443d-a722-4090a748d55f 2006-09-28T22:51:32Z 2006-09-28T22:51:32Z

TOP! I have in the past fantasized about being a bottom ( it would take a lot of prying and alcohol to get into that), but at this point in my life Top is more me with the caveat that it is not a 24/7 thing and it can be turned on and off according to when i have the time and the drive.

Rhett 2006-09-28T22:51:32Z $item.owner.firstName http://clubrisque.tribe.net/thread/c9cf8d14-7002-4b9b-bc11-9c05487eb280#82dc644f-08f0-4d6e-bcab-6d0fccec8870 2006-04-14T00:58:28Z 2006-04-14T00:58:28Z

great advice!

$item.owner.firstName 2006-04-14T00:58:28Z The Prodigal http://clubrisque.tribe.net/thread/c9cf8d14-7002-4b9b-bc11-9c05487eb280#bbc0d368-e2ff-48e7-aa2f-9b7d749fb9f6 2006-04-12T02:00:00Z 2006-04-12T02:00:00Z

I LOVE to surprise myself... i.e. you're with this great person they're a top to boot (or so they would have you believe) and just when it gets to that point ... WHAM there you are on top taking control and loving it! Or even better when they surprise you with the same tactics. I just excite in the mystery of not knowing just what will happen... Don't over think it, don't try to over analize or out witt... just go with the moment and wherever it takes you... you might surprise your own id , and hey you might evenlike it .

The Prodigal 2006-04-12T02:00:00Z Teresa http://clubrisque.tribe.net/thread/c9cf8d14-7002-4b9b-bc11-9c05487eb280#c5c8c559-e5d5-4177-a5c6-0b5314cef90a 2006-04-11T05:00:55Z 2006-04-11T05:00:55Z

Yep, that's what's so great about people; they're all so different! I used to be such a bottom, but now I switch, according to whatever is going on. I don't play that way often, but when I do, I'm always surprised by what comes out of me, which person I'll be.

Teresa 2006-04-11T05:00:55Z Siana Dragonfly http://clubrisque.tribe.net/thread/c9cf8d14-7002-4b9b-bc11-9c05487eb280#0186be63-1e62-4d24-b630-4e216f2acc86 2006-04-11T02:13:51Z 2006-04-11T02:13:51Z

your mirroring your partner in that moment. i love to play with roleplay, and its fun to discover sides of yourself that maybe you don't always indulge in.

Siana Dragonfly 2006-04-11T02:13:51Z $item.owner.firstName http://clubrisque.tribe.net/thread/c9cf8d14-7002-4b9b-bc11-9c05487eb280#bca8656c-6ef7-40c5-9d1f-4af818152723 2006-04-11T01:32:14Z 2006-04-11T01:32:14Z

often for me, my bottom or top energy will play out depending on the person(s) i'm with. if i'm with a total top, i revel in bottoming. if i'm with a bottom or someone who wants to experiment, i'm happy to take the lead.

$item.owner.firstName 2006-04-11T01:32:14Z Siana Dragonfly http://clubrisque.tribe.net/thread/c9cf8d14-7002-4b9b-bc11-9c05487eb280#f8c299a7-5809-4424-be9a-bc9e22ca8ccd 2006-04-11T01:23:17Z 2006-04-11T01:23:17Z

that's a very good point, Mr. mac n'cheese is good occasionally, but it would lose it's goodness if that's all there was. (i remember being in Yosemite when we all realized all we had left was top ramen) although that said, there is certainly a lot that can be done with noodles. but this isn't about noodles, lol.

Siana Dragonfly 2006-04-11T01:23:17Z The Prodigal http://clubrisque.tribe.net/thread/c9cf8d14-7002-4b9b-bc11-9c05487eb280#78563e3e-e2d7-494d-9d55-7bed654af71d 2006-04-11T00:35:52Z 2006-04-11T00:35:52Z

Personally i prefer changing it up a bit... if you're always stuck in one position, you tend to get bored. just like anything though, if you want to keep it interesting change it up. Who really wants to eat mac & cheese everyday when the world is full different flavors?

The Prodigal 2006-04-11T00:35:52Z Siana Dragonfly http://clubrisque.tribe.net/thread/c9cf8d14-7002-4b9b-bc11-9c05487eb280#a75f8c49-4e91-41e2-811a-ccd383ec02c6 2006-04-08T22:17:32Z 2006-04-08T22:17:32Z

i like being in a submissive position for the most part. i know i've got it in me to dominate,(just ask my dog on a training walk). so what makes us top or bottom? do we all have both top and bottom within us? probably. just thought i'd open up a topic.

Siana Dragonfly 2006-04-08T22:17:32Z