http://clubrisque.tribe.net/thread/c9cf8d14-7002-4b9b-bc11-9c05487eb280?format=rss Tribe.net. Local Connections http://clubrisque.tribe.net/thread/c9cf8d14-7002-4b9b-bc11-9c05487eb280#7f4e4c39-78e2-4d9c-abf2-6e10f43a07f1 New member so a late response: I have always had a desire to be topped by a woman who has her toys and knows what to do with them. I have never had a desire to be topped by a male. There is something terribly erotic about it....finding the partner is the rub. Wed, 12 Sep 2007 02:54:57 GMT http://clubrisque.tribe.net/thread/c9cf8d14-7002-4b9b-bc11-9c05487eb280#7f4e4c39-78e2-4d9c-abf2-6e10f43a07f1 $item.owner.firstName 2007-09-12T02:54:57Z http://clubrisque.tribe.net/thread/c9cf8d14-7002-4b9b-bc11-9c05487eb280#3ad6941d-0f18-4d7c-abfd-877c22c128e5 this tribe is still alive? It's not that tough to Top or bottom if the person you are playing with gets pleasure from what you are doing. i am, as many here know, the bottom in the relationship i am currently in. i greatly enjoy any opportunity to Top in order to provide the sensations that someone may enjoy or even be curious about experiencing (you don't have to be drunk to give it a shot!) In no way do i consider myself a switch. To me that's more along the lines of someone who needs to be Dominant and submissive--depending on how they are feeling at the time. i don't relate being Dom or sub to the same thing as being a Top or bottom. All these labels! For me, Topping someone is a service that i can provide (not the kind of service you pay for, either, i'm talking about serving someone as a submissive/slave). i have noticed on a yahoo group that i'm on where the topic of switch came up that "switching" is more common in communities that are small. Not enough good Tops to go around! Sat, 30 Sep 2006 01:04:42 GMT http://clubrisque.tribe.net/thread/c9cf8d14-7002-4b9b-bc11-9c05487eb280#3ad6941d-0f18-4d7c-abfd-877c22c128e5 kelly 2006-09-30T01:04:42Z http://clubrisque.tribe.net/thread/c9cf8d14-7002-4b9b-bc11-9c05487eb280#7ace18f6-800d-443d-a722-4090a748d55f TOP! I have in the past fantasized about being a bottom ( it would take a lot of prying and alcohol to get into that), but at this point in my life Top is more me with the caveat that it is not a 24/7 thing and it can be turned on and off according to when i have the time and the drive. Thu, 28 Sep 2006 22:51:32 GMT http://clubrisque.tribe.net/thread/c9cf8d14-7002-4b9b-bc11-9c05487eb280#7ace18f6-800d-443d-a722-4090a748d55f Rhett 2006-09-28T22:51:32Z http://clubrisque.tribe.net/thread/c9cf8d14-7002-4b9b-bc11-9c05487eb280#82dc644f-08f0-4d6e-bcab-6d0fccec8870 great advice! Fri, 14 Apr 2006 00:58:28 GMT http://clubrisque.tribe.net/thread/c9cf8d14-7002-4b9b-bc11-9c05487eb280#82dc644f-08f0-4d6e-bcab-6d0fccec8870 $item.owner.firstName 2006-04-14T00:58:28Z http://clubrisque.tribe.net/thread/c9cf8d14-7002-4b9b-bc11-9c05487eb280#bbc0d368-e2ff-48e7-aa2f-9b7d749fb9f6 I LOVE to surprise myself... i.e. you're with this great person they're a top to boot (or so they would have you believe) and just when it gets to that point ... WHAM there you are on top taking control and loving it! Or even better when they surprise you with the same tactics. I just excite in the mystery of not knowing just what will happen... Don't over think it, don't try to over analize or out witt... just go with the moment and wherever it takes you... you might surprise your own id , and hey you might evenlike it . Wed, 12 Apr 2006 02:00:00 GMT http://clubrisque.tribe.net/thread/c9cf8d14-7002-4b9b-bc11-9c05487eb280#bbc0d368-e2ff-48e7-aa2f-9b7d749fb9f6 The Prodigal 2006-04-12T02:00:00Z http://clubrisque.tribe.net/thread/c9cf8d14-7002-4b9b-bc11-9c05487eb280#c5c8c559-e5d5-4177-a5c6-0b5314cef90a Yep, that's what's so great about people; they're all so different! I used to be such a bottom, but now I switch, according to whatever is going on. I don't play that way often, but when I do, I'm always surprised by what comes out of me, which person I'll be. Tue, 11 Apr 2006 05:00:55 GMT http://clubrisque.tribe.net/thread/c9cf8d14-7002-4b9b-bc11-9c05487eb280#c5c8c559-e5d5-4177-a5c6-0b5314cef90a Teresa 2006-04-11T05:00:55Z http://clubrisque.tribe.net/thread/c9cf8d14-7002-4b9b-bc11-9c05487eb280#0186be63-1e62-4d24-b630-4e216f2acc86 your mirroring your partner in that moment. i love to play with roleplay, and its fun to discover sides of yourself that maybe you don't always indulge in. Tue, 11 Apr 2006 02:13:51 GMT http://clubrisque.tribe.net/thread/c9cf8d14-7002-4b9b-bc11-9c05487eb280#0186be63-1e62-4d24-b630-4e216f2acc86 Siana Dragonfly 2006-04-11T02:13:51Z http://clubrisque.tribe.net/thread/c9cf8d14-7002-4b9b-bc11-9c05487eb280#bca8656c-6ef7-40c5-9d1f-4af818152723 often for me, my bottom or top energy will play out depending on the person(s) i'm with. if i'm with a total top, i revel in bottoming. if i'm with a bottom or someone who wants to experiment, i'm happy to take the lead. Tue, 11 Apr 2006 01:32:14 GMT http://clubrisque.tribe.net/thread/c9cf8d14-7002-4b9b-bc11-9c05487eb280#bca8656c-6ef7-40c5-9d1f-4af818152723 $item.owner.firstName 2006-04-11T01:32:14Z http://clubrisque.tribe.net/thread/c9cf8d14-7002-4b9b-bc11-9c05487eb280#f8c299a7-5809-4424-be9a-bc9e22ca8ccd that's a very good point, Mr. mac n'cheese is good occasionally, but it would lose it's goodness if that's all there was. (i remember being in Yosemite when we all realized all we had left was top ramen) although that said, there is certainly a lot that can be done with noodles. but this isn't about noodles, lol. Tue, 11 Apr 2006 01:23:17 GMT http://clubrisque.tribe.net/thread/c9cf8d14-7002-4b9b-bc11-9c05487eb280#f8c299a7-5809-4424-be9a-bc9e22ca8ccd Siana Dragonfly 2006-04-11T01:23:17Z http://clubrisque.tribe.net/thread/c9cf8d14-7002-4b9b-bc11-9c05487eb280#78563e3e-e2d7-494d-9d55-7bed654af71d Personally i prefer changing it up a bit... if you're always stuck in one position, you tend to get bored. just like anything though, if you want to keep it interesting change it up. Who really wants to eat mac & cheese everyday when the world is full different flavors? Tue, 11 Apr 2006 00:35:52 GMT http://clubrisque.tribe.net/thread/c9cf8d14-7002-4b9b-bc11-9c05487eb280#78563e3e-e2d7-494d-9d55-7bed654af71d The Prodigal 2006-04-11T00:35:52Z http://clubrisque.tribe.net/thread/c9cf8d14-7002-4b9b-bc11-9c05487eb280#a75f8c49-4e91-41e2-811a-ccd383ec02c6 i like being in a submissive position for the most part. i know i've got it in me to dominate,(just ask my dog on a training walk). so what makes us top or bottom? do we all have both top and bottom within us? probably. just thought i'd open up a topic. Sat, 08 Apr 2006 22:17:32 GMT http://clubrisque.tribe.net/thread/c9cf8d14-7002-4b9b-bc11-9c05487eb280#a75f8c49-4e91-41e2-811a-ccd383ec02c6 Siana Dragonfly 2006-04-08T22:17:32Z